You know the equally tempting or craving element than cake is checking your spouse mobile! Don’t deny it, you might not be the only one but you could be one of the few to get out of the trap.
‘Trap!?! but why it’s a trap? I am just checking with whom he/she is talking days in and out & why the behaviour is slightly changed? I am worried about our relationship then why I am in a trap?
Well, let me rewind a few days/months from where it all started. From the day you came to know, did the following things happen to you? :
- The peace of mind went for a toss!
- You kept looking for the opportunity to grab his/her mobile & not to get caught either while doing so (have you ever noticed how fast your heart beats during that time?)
- The sleepless nights with random thoughts
- Low energy in the day time (obviously)
- Attention diverted from work & life
- Every WhatsApp message beep on his/her mobile started irritating
- The words ‘beyond friendship’ in messages started haunting.
- It’s indirect/direct impact on your relationship with your spouse.
- The deleted messages or ‘clear chat’ made it even worst.
- If he/she is doing something out of love for you, it’s still doubtful.
- Low self-esteem… and so on.
Whether you have confronted this with your spouse OR You couldn’t do it out of fear OR Even if its made clear from him/her & still it’s disturbing & still you taking the hell lot of efforts to see that ‘name’ on the screen which bothers you the most.
That’s why I am calling it a ‘trap’. I have met such people who couldn’t get out of it & facing health issue like heart diseases at an early age.
How to get out of the trap!
- Be enough matured to understand the situation & then react. Your spouse has their own life too
- Take genuine efforts to uplift your relationship if it’s damaged somewhere. No one loves to come back to a noisy mate.
- Always hand over his/her phone, upside down. Don’t look at the screen. (It may sound stupid but ignorance is bliss sometimes)
- Focus your energy on your positive things/skills & try to make most out of it.
- Ignore the things which are pulling you back.
- Instead of being under the fear of getting dumped, make yourself so strong that if he/she decides to move on, you can sing ‘Issme tera ghata…mera kuch nahi jata‘
Take a deep breath & think if you really want to waste your time getting into such stupid traps or want to raise yourself & your partner to a new level in life.
The choice is yours 🙂